Forgive and Heal Yourself

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Forgiveness is the process that takes place when we let go of fear and choose to love instead.

In every challenging area of your life right now there is an opportunity to forgive.

Forgiveness is different that condoning. It is not giving a blessing for wrong doing but a way to acknowledge it, release it and move on. When we can let go of the pain and the fear, we can truly move forward to create something else, something better.

Forgiving ourselves provides a completion and an opportunity for a new beginning.

It is not possible to go back and change the past, but you can change how you feel about it. No matter how far away you push feelings, they are yours and at some point, they will come back to you. Forgiveness has a rhythm all its own as you progress through the process of release and healing.

Negative feelings and emotions are letting us know we need to take action! I remember when I first began my spiritual journey, I did a huge amount of forgiveness work and yet I still didn’t feel balanced. What I then realised was that I may have worked through forgiving others, but I had not forgiven myself! This was a big revelation to me and now when I need to work on forgiveness, I always start with myself!

The reason being is that each of us create our own reality and the people in our lives are mirrors to help us learn and grow. Therefore, when we forgive ourselves, we forgive others as well.

Remember we are all connected, and we are the only ones responsible for creating the experiences (positive or negative) in our lives. When we accept this as truth, it becomes much easier to forgive!

If you feel you still need to work on forgiving someone else, then this is completely fine as we can of course go through experiences that have caused us trauma and need to balance both sides with forgiveness. There is no right or wrong with this work and how long it takes is personal. Give yourself as long as you need, there is no rush.

Here is a very easy and simple way to help you forgive by using the Ho’oponopono technique. There are four simple steps to this method, and the order is not that important. Repentance, Forgiveness, Gratitude and Love are the keys!

The best part of this technique is you can do it yourself, anywhere and at anytime! You can “say” the words in your head or out loud, whichever way feels best to you. The power is in the emotion you bring forth when you say these words.

Step 1: Repentance – I’M SORRY

We are each responsible for everything in our lives and once we realise this it is natural to feel sorry for the things we have created!

This realization can be painful, and it is easy to resist accepting responsibility for the problems ‘out there.’ Therefore it is much easier to choose something that you already know you’ve caused for yourself? Such as anger, health concerns, addictions or even something like gaining weight.

Start with yourself and say you’re sorry to you! All you have to do is say “I’M SORRY”.

However, it can also be very powerful if you say something that helps you to take responsibility for your creation. Such as “I am responsible for the (issue) in my life and I am so sorry for creating this.” Say whatever feels right that resonates with you.

Step 2: Ask Forgiveness – PLEASE FORGIVE ME

Don’t worry about who you’re asking, unless you feel like you should focus on a specific person or yourself. Say “PLEASE FORGIVE ME” and feel the emotions!

Step 3: Gratitude – THANK YOU

Say “THANK YOU” – again it doesn’t really matter who or what you’re thanking. Thank whatever it was that just forgave you. Just keep saying THANK YOU.

Step 4: Love – I LOVE YOU

This can also be step 1. Say I LOVE YOU. Say it to your body, say it to Spirit, say it to Mother Earth, say it to your home. Say I LOVE YOU to your challenges. Say it over and over. Mean it. Feel it. There is nothing more powerful than LOVE!

That’s it. This practice is so simple and incredibly effective.

I have also attached below some beautiful Ho’oponopono music to help you too. You can either listen here or visit their Youtube channel via the link below.